My Biggest & Best Lessons of 2016
Welp, it's here: the final countdown to the shit-show we call 2016. For many this year was filled with back-to-back Meek Mill level L's. The election, Aleppo, losing Prince, Global Warming, Standing Rock the list can go on and on and on. Not to mention the earth shattering tragedies and misfortunes that struck all of our personal lives.
Despite all the chaos, I must say that all of my good days outweighed my bad days and I can't complain. I'm a strong believer in the collective consciousness, and I know this year was a purging of sorts. In these times the same apathetic and aloof approach we've been taking just isn't going to cut it. The veil has been lifted, the ball is in our court. Red pill or blue pill, which do you chose?
I choose action, art, and activism: and I'm here to share the lessons that finally seeped through my thick head. Enjoy!
1. Done is better than perfect.
OMG. Oh Em Gee. OHHH EMMM GEEE! Louder for the people in the back. When I tell you this has been a life-long struggle for me. As creatives, sometimes we get so stuck in our head. We worry about how people will receive our work, and if it's not up to the standard of Beyoncé we don't want to put it out. We fail to realize that Beyoncé has been becoming all her life. Your level of output is a culmination of your work. This means you HAVE to do the work first. So get out of your head and get to creating! Remember the idea is the easy part and work ethic beats talent every. single. time.
2. Don't say maybe if you want to say no.
Just don't do it. Spare yourself and everyone involved and be real from the jump. That little twinge of doubt will become a 10lbs lug of resentment in the pit of your stomach by the end of it all. No matter how lit something seems if it doesn't feel right for you, you won't be happy. Plus it will be even more awkward when you want to cut ties down the road. Be true to heart, and go where your instincts tell you, which leads me to my next point...
3. You always have a choice!
You do. You really do. There is something so liberating about making a choice and shaping the life you want. Don't go through life feeling like things are happening to you. That's defeatist, lazy and honestly lame. Make a choice. Decide who you are, decide where you want to be, and execute. It's really that simple. We often go through life thinking that the universe will punish us for our decisions. In some instances, that's true if you do things out of malice or ego. However, what I've found is life molds around your choices. If you make the right choices, you'll get where you were going a lot faster than you thought. Who knows you might actually enjoy the ride.
4. Kill the comparison.
Whew! This one right here. In this social media society, it's so hard to stay focused on yourself. FOMO and anxiety live in the back of our mind, and it's so hard not to get caught up in what someone else is doing. First things first, is YOU DON'T KNOW ANYBODY'S LIFE. We all are fighting battles people know nothing about. Never let someone's highlight reel distract you from YOUR process. It's the process that's going to launch you. The sooner you get that the quicker you'll find your own success. One thing I really had to learn this year was to stop looking at people as superior and inferior and start looking at them as equals who I can teach and learn from. Understand that out of the 50 bagillion trillion million people on this planet there is no one quite like you!
5. All things take time.
This is the holy grail of Lessons right here. Things take time. A lot of time. More time than you'd think. More time than you'd like. Ain't no way around it, it will happen when it's supposed to. I used to be SOOOO stressed about this. When will I find my mate, when will I find success, when will I find blah blah blah. The answer is when it's time, and it's God time, not our time. I know it feels hard and NEVER ending. But one day you'll be on the other side and wonder why you were ever so stressed. Every single experience I've had has made me into a harder, better, faster, stronger version of myself. I know these are skills that are going to help me sustain and thrive when I get to where I'm going. So chill out a bit. Recognize the beauty in the journey, the struggle, the mistakes, and the failures. Appreciate the highs, learn from the lows, and always always always keep it moving!
Happy New Years bunnys, drop your lessons in the comments below!